Loss and Attachment

Achieve your goals and dreams.

Understand loss.

Avoid grief, bereavement and depression.

Achieve freedom from fear.

Is there a way to obtain possessions and material happiness, yet also avoid grief and bereavement when things can't last forever?

The ultimate goal of this site (and our lives) is happiness. Up until now we've been finding out how to transform our existence, attract our dearest desires into our lives and direct the moment-to-moment moods, the natural course of our minds, to be routed as happiness.

Yet there is the problem of loss. So far, by following the practices in the site, we can obtain new circumstances, objects, dreams, perhaps money, a new place to live, but as life manifests in cycles, then nothing we have can be permanent.

This has been a religious/spiritual problem for as long as we've existed. If everything is impermanent, then how do we best live to be happy?

So which is right, A or B?... The answer is perhaps, neither.

When we were doing the inner and outer practice, say for a new house to live in for example, you visualised a house and felt the happiness and joy as though you had already obtained it. Then, throughout the waking day, you felt the same joy and excitement at the potential of owning the house - as though you were already living there.

When you obtain the house in the 'real world', the joy you feel is no different to what you've already been feeling each night, morning and throughout the day as you practiced the method. Eventually a new course is carved for your stream, and joy becomes the 'default course' of your mind. And when you stop and think about it - now that you know how life manifests - you can inspire joy consciously. If you felt the joy and excitement before you obtained the house, then the happiness is independent of the object; something within. As it's independent, then it won't cease upon the loss of the house, and if it remains then a new house shall come into being from the same mental-pictures that caused the previous one.

All the things we chased in life, car, spouse, video etc. we were never really chasing them, we were chasing the happiness they would inspire. From now on, with these new methods, we obtain the happy feeling associated with each object before the possession actually arrives in our lives. Thus there's no real reason that we still need it as the happiness is independent of it, and here the whole thing even becomes a kind of meditation. When we now obtain our dreams, the happiness they bring is the same, no more - no less, than before they arrived, and thus we begin to surpass our dreams. When our happiness is inspired and sustained from within - we can never lose anything!

I know what you're thinking. Yeah, so if my kids get killed in a car crash, then I'll just feel joy that's independent of them and manifest new ones - are you for real?

Fair enough, if someone you love dies then you'll grieve, despite all my clever ideas. I don't have the answer to that, as we're all human. If you do have all the answers send me your URL and I'll have my mind blown. This is about as far as it goes, I think.

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